rec: make quit-nicely wait on actual quit and start using it for stopping by systemd

[omoerbeek]

Short description

Undecided if this should make rec-5.2.0 also not battle tested, hence Draft.

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• 28 of 31 (90.32%) changed or added relevant lines in 4 files are covered.
• 53 unchanged lines in 16 files lost coverage.
• Overall coverage increased (+0.08%) to 64.901%

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Changes Missing Coverage	Covered Lines	Changed/Added Lines	%
pdns/recursordist/rec-main.cc	15	16	93.75%
pdns/recursordist/rec_channel.cc	4	6	66.67%

Files with Coverage Reduction	New Missed Lines	%
pdns/packethandler.cc	1	72.4%
pdns/dnsdistdist/dnsdist.hh	1	84.24%
pdns/misc.cc	1	64.74%
pdns/pollmplexer.cc	1	83.66%
pdns/validate.cc	1	68.61%
pdns/recursordist/syncres.cc	2	80.22%
modules/godbcbackend/sodbc.cc	2	70.8%
pdns/iputils.cc	3	55.91%
pdns/recursordist/test-syncres_cc2.cc	3	89.03%
pdns/opensslsigners.cc	3	61.41%

Totals
Change from base Build 12373746857:	0.08%
Covered Lines:	126248
Relevant Lines:	163789

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[omoerbeek]

A reggression test fails with: msg="Fatal" error="Unable to receive return status over control channel: Success" subsystem="config" level="0" prio="Error" ts="1734362335.838" Investigating.

[omoerbeek]

While this seems to work, I do not think it is wise to add this to the 5.2 release cycle which is almost done. So moving this to 5.3.0. Running rec_control quit-nicely will call the stop hook and leave the unit is a stopped state.